Friday, April 30, 2010

Spin Cycle: Roles

When I first read what the assignment was, I was brain dead to come up with anything. After giving it a weeks thought, I figured I'd better hurry up and come up with something or move on to next weeks assignment. Like I have for the past 3 weeks. Sorry, I didn't realize I had been so neglectful for so long.


When hubby and I got together 19 yrs ago, it took us no time to fall into our roles.
It was so easy and comfortable, we had never even discussed what our roles where going to be. Well over time we have evolved, but only a little bit.

I was going to say that I am just your typical 50's housewife, but now that I think about that, I find it to be not quite accurate. Well not accurate to what my perceptions of what a 50's housewife is.

My brain conjours up images of women who are controlled by there husbands and have no voice. Women whos only place was to be at home raising the children and serving their husbands every whim. Believe me when I say I am sooo not that woman!

I don't know if yall remember the style quiz I took awhile back, but the results was Vintage-Modern. I find that to be the case in my role as housewife too. I do all the duties as a housewife does, but I am the boss around here. (shhh, forget I said that! Hubby is the boss! Just in case he reads this)

Hubbies role is (Bread winner) to work and make the money that I use to keep this fine tuned engine going. I do all of the finances of everything, if money is to be spent it must be weighed and measured through me. I am in charge of making sure everything is paid and on time so he doesn't have to worry about it at all. Just so long as he gets some money for his hard work. I can't have him working like a sled dog and not get some compensation from it.

Hubbies only other roles in this house is (mechanic) to do all things automotive and (Trash man) to take the trash cans to the dumpster. Basically when he gets home the night is his to do with as he pleases, which generally means remote control king.

My roles other than general housewife duties are:
Accountant: manager of all moneys down to the last penny.
Minor repairman: Build a house from the floor up hubby did the actual floor and maintain all problems..from replacing toilet guts to replacing a screen on the window.
Gardener (which I really don't like): Mowing, trimming trees, weed eating, planting and baking in the sun to get it all done.

I got real lucky that my hubby:
is not messy and doesn't go spending money with out checking with me first (to be sure there is any money).
He doesn't boss me around or demand things to be done (I demand those things of myself).
Although he has gotten into the habit of letting me know when its going to rain, his subtle way of saying I need to mow. LOL!

Well I can't think anymore and hubby is up and I need to get The Money Maker out the door!

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kathryn said... [Reply to comment]

Great post, Heather! I don't enjoy gardening that much...but mainly 'cause I always seem to pick up poison ivy along the way. Or, maybe it finds me...
I believe you are the perfect combination of traditional and modern...just perfect!

Joanie M said... [Reply to comment]

My former life used to be very much like that.

I think I like the life I have now... coming and going as I please and not having to answer to anyone any more.

John would love to get married, but he has this really old-fashioned idea that the man is the head of the household and therefore, has final say in many matters. Solution? We won't be getting married any time soon! LOL (personally I think he's a lot of talk ... he even lets me control the remote!)

Anonymous said... [Reply to comment]

Good spin. I find it interesting the way we each just sort of evolve into roles that fit perfectly with one another.

Jen said... [Reply to comment]

I think smart men knew to keep their wives happy...even back in the 50's. "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world."

Maureen@IslandRoar said... [Reply to comment]

You seem to have a lot more roles than Hubby. I think this is true of most women.

~The South Dakota Cowgirl~ said... [Reply to comment]

Love the new blog look- and I love that you're a major multi-tasker. My parent operate their marriage in much the same way you and your husband do. The Cowboy and I are more inclined to share all duties with one another. It works for us! Thanks for sharing.

Jerry said... [Reply to comment]

Your roles are much the same as ours 'cept I have to empty the dishwasher too! I swear she keeps putting stuff in there just to keep me busy.

I think somewhere in recent history guys finally figured out that being king of the household wasn't all they thought it would be. Along with it came responsibility and decision making and arbitrator...the very things that guys typically suck at. When they figured out that the gals could do these things so much better they found contentment in relinquishing the kingdom to the wife and sticking to stuff they excel at...taking out the trash and emptying the dishwasher.

Jimmy said... [Reply to comment]

Sounds like our house too,

Now that I am retired I am still the bread winner with my retirement coming in I'm just in Cindy's hair more now :^)

Heather said... [Reply to comment]

Kathryn...I wouldn't know I got into posion ivy or not. I guess I've never gotten into it. Posion oak on the other hand, we have a plenty. Thankfully it doesn't bother me.
Thanks for the kind words.

Joanie...Hubby and I got a roaring laugh going over the remote. Hubby says HA! (in a very "I would never" kinda way!)

Suzicate...I guess it depends on wether you are truly happy, as to wether or not you evolve.

Jen...Yeah, my grandparents were happy. I never heard my grammie say a bad word about grampie.

Heather said... [Reply to comment]

Maureen...LOL! I know, right? Hubby thought that was funny, me not so much. I think I might have to come up with another role for him.

TSDC...Thanks! Hubby's idea to share is for me to go with him and help unload the truck at the dumpster. LOL!

Jerry...LOL! Oh, my hubby does do the dishes every once in a while!
SOME men have evolved out of dumd butt and every woman is grateful for the few.

Jimmy...I am worried about the day when hubby will be home 24/7. I think I might have to build him his on place out back!

Angelia Sims said... [Reply to comment]

Very nice Heather. Your relationship works beautifully! (well except for the lawn/garden thing) HA. I hate mowing but love planting flowers.